Sunday, September 12, 2010

Rejoice

"Boys, in my life I've only had sexual relations with one woman, my wife. Later this year, we'll be married 53 years."

Obviously, the speaker wasn't William Jefferson Clinton.

Instead, it was a man leading a morning group of men who study the Big Book of Myths and Fables, as an area blog commenter enjoys calling the Christian Bible. And, in case you're wondering, I attend this group.

He continued: "I was recently counseling a younger man in our Church who wanted to know how far he could go without crossing the line in his marriage. Unfortunately, he was calling me from the parking lot of a strip-club."

The context of this was the study of the reign of King David in the book of Samuel. David, of course, instead of being with his army, had been relaxing on his palace roof, and instead of looking toward the tabernacle and seeking God's will, he engaged some peeping-tomery on Bathsheba, and sent a messenger to find out who she was. He was told that she was the wife of Uriah.

Warning light.

Our speaker continued: "God gives you the first look for free. You can see a pretty woman walk by, and you can say or think "That's a pretty woman", but if you're married, or she is, that's the end of it.  If you continue to pursue or make plans or fantasize or whatever, you've crossed the line, brother."

King David, we know, who already had several wives and concubines, dismissed the fact that Bathsheba was married, and had her brought to his palace, whereupon they got jiggy with it, and she became pregnant. To conceal his/their sin, he arranged for Uriah to be killed in battle, and some other men were killed also. The child died soon after birth, and David's reign began its decline.

"Guys, Proverbs 5:18 says "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth". My wife's body, in the past few years, has been beaten by illnesses and scarred by a double mastectomy. But I rejoice in the wife of my youth."

You could've heard a pin drop.  For me, part of the poignancy was that my own parents celebrated their 52nd anniversary a couple of weeks ago.

I've known the man for about three years. Long enough to know that his oration that morning was not boastful or self-aggrandizing - within the subject matter, it was a reminder of the responsibility that Christ followers have, and a testimony that, despite popular culture and the temptations we're faced with, we have options and are not to enslave ourselves to the sinful desires.

It's doubtful that the speaker and Todd the Blogger have ever met, but certainly they would agree that while we may not see the beauty or sometimes the reason behind what we're called to do, and the events that happen in our lives, God is weaving the 'Threads' of a beautiful tapestry.

h/t: KG, RTB

4 comments:

mzchief said...

I never said The Big Book of Myths and Fables did not have several good lessons that, if followed, makes for an easier life.

Incidentally, my Mr. and I have been together for over 25 years, though neither of us ascribes to any particular religious belief, neither of us has felt the need to stray, even in our heads. Hubby has always said, that having his head, heart and body well-fed at home leaves him no appetite to dig around in the rubbish. On my part, I have always taken great pride in my virtue and believe, that I am not only a treasure to my husband but my being virtuous enables him to achieve much knowing that I am truly, only his, head, heart and body.

My heart always weeps a wee bit for the partner, in a marriage, who has been cheated on by a unfaithful spouse.

an Donalbane said...

MZ, I wasn't chastising, just ribbing. Good naturedly so. Some of the most intelligent, ethical, and moral people I know are agnostic or objectivist.

BTW, I hope the post did not seem to suggest that only Christians have that sort of commitment - inasmuch as you have noted the success of your marriage. Likewise, my parents' 52 years have been for the most part without religious affiliation (they observe our blessings before dinner when I have the kids at their house, but I don't proselytize to them - seems like a fair arrangement).

I hope that my pro-Christian posts reflect the good lessons, joy, or peace I find from my journey.

mzchief said...

To Donald...
Surely, you have seen my comments enough to realize, I NEVER take personally ANYTHING on the Interweb.

As a child, I was taught, "the first rule of etiquette is to assume that no offense was intended." Should I feel offended it is up to me to ASK if offense was intended. If the response is "no" then I have no option but to accept the answer and realize I was mistaken. If the answer is "yes" my only option is to realize I am dealing with a beastly person and refuse to allow their actions to further impact me. You would be amazed at how much I have benefited by having learned, at an early age, that lesson in etiquette.

The vast majority of my friends are DEVOUT Christians who, like you, understand that their religion is a personal journey and have never attempted to sway me from my belief that faith is God is a personal journey and like any journey not all people are able or choose to take the same path.

I merely shared my marital experience to illustrate that even non-religious people are able to solely commit themselves to the ideal of marital fidelity.

BTW...You need to give up the curmudgeon act. You are quite the catch and by acting like a curmudgeon you are denying yourself and a wonderful woman the opportunity of sharing a wonderful life. Shame on you for not sharing the decent person you have spent decades becoming with an equally charming and decent woman. Think of it this way, when only the scum in the shallow end of the dating pool are clinging to one another, there really is no hope of any chance for the people of greater depth to pair up. In other words, you are directly at fault for the scummy state of the dating pool.

*;)

What can I say? The Jewish part of my genetics and heritage make me a natural Shadkhen.

an Donalbane said...

MZ:

Oy! I dunno about being the catch - don't get me wrong, I'm not committing false modesty - I just have much to be modest about...

I think I've probably been the curmudgeon long enough that it's difficult to teach the dog new tricks/change the leopard's spots.